In this article, I’d like to share some thoughts on the subject of obesity and sex.
I think we have all posted on the subject of how men see women, and how unimportant the fat that terrorizes their wives is to them. It is an ancient piece of neurological circuitry which ensures that men — though obviously there will be the odd, nasty exception, but this is deliberate nastiness — don’t see the bulges that worry us women. It’s a biological aspect, and it’s true to say that men are rendered blind.
But the matter does stoke up a lot of misery between a couple because so many women assume their men are lying to be kind, and obviously this only causes more tension. I know someone posted the suggestion recently that a woman gives her husband a pen and pad, with an assurance of no comeback on honesty, and gets the guy to draw you as he sees you. He needn’t be an artist — a rough sketch is quite enough to illustrate that men genuinely see their wives as smaller than the wives see themselves.